Spoken Word

Spoken Word: Men In Suites

Sometimes killers don’t pack guns.
Sometimes they pack the Bible or the Koran.
Sometimes they pack the Torah.
Tell you how to fix your aura.
Tell you how to unify self in community.
Tell you how to be the best you the best me.
Tell me now; how can it be?
That he can be the Shepherd, Lost leading the sheep?
Tell me now; do the people not see?
It’s blind loyalty that turns a monster into a king.

Says he’s got the keys to the kingdom.
Can bless you with new life and freedom.
Says he’ll make America great again;
As long as you turn your head when he’s sinning.

Sure he’s done some good,
Sure he’s changing the world,
He’s doing all of that,
While he destroys the worlds
Of good little boys and girls.

He’s divided into three, you see?
The man who never had a father.
The man who claims to know the father.
The man who’s too scared to be a father.
Never seen him run so farther,
Until he heard he was going to be a father.

He Jumps in front of a camera
Throwing his fist in the air,
Talking about Black lives matter.
He’s got black lives at home that haven’t even eaten yet.
Talking about all lives matter;
Womanizing women while his wife’s life shatters.
The truth is….
Imposters come in all shapes and sizes.
Sometimes they even come with prizes,
And surprisingly, some pull it off with finesse.

Never thought he was one of them? But look closer, sis.
Does he move with confidence?
But then dismisses your intelligence?
Look closer, brother;
Does he profess to know the way but lives in ignorance?
Does he live without direction?
Does he live for his erection,
As he fails to erect the God in him?
But becomes resurrected every Sunday Morning,
8 AM… “Better be there…. God’s watching…”

Then speaks to the youth about the God in them.
And when the youth speak the truth,
he tries to slaughters them.
And he Speaks of single mothers as victims,
Then goes out and creates more of them.
Forgive them father, for they know not what they do.
And…. continue…. to choose not to.
Forgive those men,
Because hating them only creates more of them.

So which man in which suite, how can we tell?
Time will tell.

In the meantime,
Trust the God in you and don’t follow them to hell.

Illistration & Poem by Mical Asefaw

Food

DLB’s Mical Inside Chico’s Grill

Video directed and co-edited by K. Miki Richmond

Hey, DLB family! As you know (or may not know), I grew up in the restaurant business and I have a special place in my heart for the family owned restaurant experience. With gentrification becoming enevitible in many parts of the world, I feel it’s important to support our mom-and-pop shops, the whole-in-the-walls, that “joint” around the corner that makes San Francisco so special to live in and a true food destination.

This is a shout-out to Illario Chico and his family at Chico’s Grill. The food is amazing! The family is wonderful. The story behind the joint is about living the American dream while celebrating the dishes of his culture, Puebla State, Mexico.

So watch the video and then go check them out. Enjoy!

Let me know what you think of the video and if you have a special spot you’d like for me to visit next.

Chico’s Grill 3771 Mission St, San Francisco, CA 94110, Phone number (415) 970-0375

Do Life Brilliantly:)

Mical–

Food

Gluten-Free Sweet Potato Brownies, A.K.A., Samai’s Brownies

Finally! Brownies that taste amazing, are nutritious AND gluten-free, nut-free, egg-free, milk-free, soy-free, corn-free, coconut-free, sesame seed-free, banana-free, xanthem gum-free and free of a bunch of other no-nos!

This recipe has protein from the garbanzo beans (trust me, flavor is all good), vitamin A and potassium from the sweet potatoes.
Yummy goodness that you and your kiddos get to enjoy together sans the allergens!

The brownies also freeze well, so don’t go tearing-them-up all at once!
This is still a high calorie, high sugar snack (although much better than regular brownies with refined sugar, allergens, and chemicals) so please eat them on special occasions and not as a daily snack.

In case your wondering what “Samai” means in the title, it means heaven and it’s also the name of my 5-year-old, who named the brownies after herself.

*This recipe can be totally vegan if you replace the organic honey with more organic agave nectar.*
*The oats suggested to create a “cake-ier” texture should be gluten-free, such as Bob’s Red Mill Gluten Free Oats.

If you liked the video, click SUBSCRIBE and leave a comment in the comment box. I look forward to reading them:)

Enjoy my Gluten-Free Sweet Potato Brownies (Samai’s Brownies) and…
Do Life Brilliantly!

Mical Asefaw

Spoken Word

Spoken Word: I Want To Feel

I Want To Feel
By Mical Asefaw

I want to feel love
I want to fall so deep in it,
That I swim past the ocean’s of my blues,
Past the scarlets of my hearts,
Until I am suspended in purple.

I want to feel the kind of love
Where you would find Jesus and Ms. Magdalene looking up at the stars.
I want to float in the paradise Mohammed speaks of
Where Siddhartha becomes Buddha because all there is, is love.

And I want to make love the way leaves fall from trees, changing colors,
Before they touch the ground;
From the greens, to the yellows, to the reds, to the browns,
Freely trusting, letting go completely,
Then hopelessly falling all over again.

I want that kind of orgasm,
That, “please don’t end…”
But it does so that we can do it all over again.

That mental, spiritual, physical connection,
Where everyone is one, and everything is within me.

I want to be his friend,
So that when we touch all hurt mends.
I want to pay homage to his soul.

I want to dance in his heart and master the art of him.
I want to know the very essence that makes him, him.
I want to take all of his hurt, put it in a box, give it wings and make it fly far, far away.

I want to wake up next to him. Wake him up in the early morning, rock him and put him back to sleep.
I want to make him think he’s still dreaming.
I want to walk out of his dreams with nothing on but the mocha of my skin
And make him believe, that we are in the garden of Eden.

I want to show him a goodnight story
And leave him with the taste of the salt from my chinny-chin-chin.

I want to fall in love with him. On Top of him.
And let him groove to me… in me… with me.
I want to fall so deep, that he sings my name.
And I will ride every note of his song
Until he screams my name, chants my name,
whispers my name… oh, Mical…
Until I find new meaning in my name…

And my name… will be synonymous…. To the sounds of love.

 

 

About

About Mical Asefaw & Do Life Brilliantly

Dear Friend,

Mical Asefaw, Spoken Word Poet

Thank you so much for visiting my site!
I’d love for you to know more about me so here it goes:
If you ask me, “where are you from?”, it’ll go like this… I was born in Sudan, my ethnicity is Eritrean, I grew up in San Francisco, California (Wessssssstside!), and a partridge in a pear tree.

I’m an artist, a chef, a mom.

I have three goals in my life: to be a major global healing force in the world through my spoken word poetry, my allergy friendly foods, and by providing moms with content on natural remedies and self-care. That last goal is particularly important. I have an amazing child who’s overcome significant health issues to become my inspiration for me to be the best me, every day. This, and my background in economics, has taught me that the state of the world is directly correlated to the well-being of our mothers. If mom’s not well, the village will not thrive.

So think of me as your multifaceted friend who wants to help you thrive.

What Is Do Life Brilliantly (DLB)
DLB is my mark on the world. A consolidation of my creative juices and my desire to bring out the best in myself and others. It’s where I share as an artist, a chef, and tap into the wisdom of women who are making a difference.

DLB is a site that is centered around creating awareness on the value mothers bring into the world. For me, it’s poetry, food, and self-healing. Soon, DLB will also include interviews with amazing women, doing amazing things to inspire us all to become amazing people. I am hoping that by sharing parts of me with you and the wisdom of guests, I will add value to your life. If that is the case, please let your Girl know at, mical.asefaw@gmail.com. I’d love to hear about it.

DLB is my way of saying, anything is possible! So let’s go on a journey together and Do Life Brilliantly!

Thank you for joining me,
Mical Asefaw

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Inspiration for “I Want To Feel” Spoken Word Poetry

If you haven’t yet heard the poem, I Want To Feel, then click here to watch the video.  

I Want To Feel is a spoken word love poem for love.
It is my encouragement for every woman to activate and own her feminine energy and express her desire to want love, to give love, and to make love.

I wrote, “I Want To Feel,” as a challenge to myself to speak out my desires and reconnect with my feminine power. I wanted to shed the mask of the harder, more masculine version of me I carried for many years as a way to appear less vulnerable. As I unfold into my womanhood as a daughter, a sister, a lover, a mother, I’m breaking down cultural limitations that I’ve internalized and letting myself return to my true essence. I am a curious, open, nurturing, loving soul. It has been quite a journey of revisiting who I truly am; loving her as an expressive being. I am choosing to live from this wondrous place.

More thoughts on the topic:

I believe that Inside every woman, lives a deep desire to be free to unleash the full potential of her sensuality, sexuality, her nurturer spirit and the brightness of her light that comes from owning her femininity. Every woman wants to freely express her nature in her own unique way. Every woman wants to explore the playground of her body, her mind, and her spirit. Every woman wants to know the full extent of her womanhood. No matter how repressed, restrained, confined, or overly masculine she appears–this is the truth. For some women, it comes easy to live out their essence. For most, it takes time and some effort to be reintroduced to her feminine self and own it. And some, never do.

Although it is freely available, many of us only live our feminine selves at a half-mass level. It is much easier for us to speak up about how we want to be treated politically, at work, or at school. It is much more of a challenge to own up to our own desires; what we dream about; what we want for and from OUR SELVES; what we want from our relationships; the way we want to be treated and tended to in every way. To speak up in this way, requires vulnerability and moments of quiet to delve into ones self and really listen to what you’ve been yearning for. Know that you deserve whatever it is that you’ve been longing for. THEN, tend to it. Give THAT to yourself. No one can give you what you don’t already give to yourself. If they did, you wouldn’t even be able to recognize it because you haven’t had it to know it. So start with you.

Openness and Sensuality/Sexuality:

I will admit–sometimes it gets hard to be open to your own fantasies and desires when the world tells you that you’re a hoe for expressing yourself and exploring yourself, in particular, with others. Then it gets more confusing when the world tells you that you must be sexually enticing or experienced to be competent and desirable as a woman… otherwise… you’re condemned to loneliness. Somehow, we end up feeling shame for having “too much” of a sexual past or persona or ashamed for not having enough sensuality or sexual experiences or not having had any sexual partners at all. And for many of us, if not most, having a negative sexual experience or trauma adds a depth of confusion and hurt to an already muddled situation. Add a few break-ups, some bad takeaways… and there it is… the beginning of the end of your feminine power, your voice, self-confidence, and the rise of “never agains.” Never again will I nurture a man. Never again will I love so hard. Never again will I be vulnerable… never again, never again, never again. Then comes the dimming down of that light that every woman has, and, so deeply desires to explore and have explored. That light that every man so deeply craves.

But we must resist that chatter that does the dimming: “I’m an independent woman, I don’t need a man.” “I’m not looking to take care of someone.” “I don’t want to get hurt.” “I’m a mom… I don’t have time for a man in my life–my kids are my life.”

Making negative chatter your truth and denying your inner desires, is truly the greatest disservice to your life and the love that you deserve that is so abundantly available to you. It is also a repellent to those who live openly, love boldly, and own their walk in life. It’s a repellent to a confident, masculine man who naturally desires that feminine energy and light in a relationship. And it is definitely a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Listen: no one should ever need someone to be happy or have anyone in their lives to hold them back. And most definitely, no one should ever be allowed to take away from a mother-child relationship. But it sure does feel nice to say outloud, “I want to love and be loved back with the same magnitude.” And it feels even better to be touched and caressed, and made love to, and tended to and listened to and cared for by a masculine, beautiful, abundant, open minded, independent, loving, honest, spiritual, worldly, conscious, sexy, high valued man. Ya heard me! And it feels good to just feel dainty, delicate, delicious, wanted, desired, sexy, feminine. Can I get an Amen?

BUT… it starts with how you feel about you. Do you love you? Do you love you enough to uphold what you deserve and ground yourself in your divine feminine power? Do you understand that the only way for you to do that is choose to love you every day?

You can choose to love yourself by celebrating the brilliance of your nature. The brilliance of your sex. The brilliance of your heart and the reality that it is because of the power of the force of femininity that the world exists.

Wear beautiful bold colors that you typically would never. Where one solid red scarf or a pair of bright blue shoes with your typical attire or paint your nails beautiful colors, varying them every week. Then work your way up to full on outfits that make you feel bold, sexy, alive, confident, beautiful… who you really are inside.

Use language that focuses on the positive aspects of your day, your family, your work and your life, in general. Limit negative talk about others and events from the news and gossip. Because positive and negative aspects of life are always available, you get to choose to focus your mind on the positive and that reinforces your light.

Minimize dialogue with negative and toxic people. Everyone knows and loves/loved someone who is toxic. There’s no way to bypass the weight and the darkness they cast on our sunshine. So, love them from a distance. Then fill your life up with like minded, open, empowered, encouraging new friends.

And the most powerful and instant way you can feel your light and share it, is to just smile all day. It is simplest, most magical way to ignite your femininity.

When you feel wonderful because of how you adjusted your outfits, your language, the people around you, your demeanor, you will know that you’ve been under a spell by how you’ve presented yourself to the world AND… yourself.

Open yourself up to the possibilities of who you can be, how you can be, what you really want, and what feels right for you. It takes some boldness to let go of limiting beliefs. To walk in your light. But it really does start with you giving yourself permission to feel sensual, beautiful, alive, empowered, and open to what makes you a woman.

 

The abundance of receiving love starts with having an abundance of love for yourself. When you decide to free yourself from your own limiting beliefs about who you are as a woman and embrace that you truly do deserve to feel good about yourself, love in it’s abundant form will be apparent everywhere you turn. Just start by owning every inch of you in the mirror. Say, “all of this (your body) is mine… all mine.” Say, “I get to have this (every inch of you) everyday and I LOVE IT.” Speak that love into existence until you have 100% convinced yourself that this is the truth (because it is) and anyone who meets you will only know this truth that is you. This loving, confident, magnetic energy that inspires anyone before you to love themselves, too.

You are free when you are living your truths. When you are the source of your empowerment. When you own every part of you: the stuff you like and the stuff you’re working on. When you explore the parts of you that wants to feel, taste, touch, smell, see, all that life has to offer. When you can have compassion for yourself. When you live from that child-like curiosity about life and others and the exploration of your world–the one inside and the world around you. When you can bring that profound sense of wonder and self-love and compassion into your expressions and interactions, it is liberating for everyone in your presence. By saying what you want from your deepest feminine desires, and living from who you really are, you give everyone permission to do the same.

Doing so openly, unapologetically, and lovingly is liberating for you AND the people that need to know how to love you.

Their is beauty and strength in vulnerability, desire, and openness.

Enjoy the poem (video above) and remember to do life brilliantly,

Mical Asefaw–

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How To DLB (Do Life Brilliantly)

Straight up, no chaser… here we go:

  1. Create a ritual… and… stick to it. This is the first on the list because it is literally how you can manufacture a sense of self value and self confidence. In life, we make promises–to ourselves and others–and at times, we find ourselves breaking them. Do that enough times and you will lose a sense of value in your own word, which in turn affects your self respect, then your self worth… and then out goes your sense of self confidence. So, create trust for yourself by every morning (or evening) creating a ritual where you give yourself attention on your mind, your body, your soul. For example: get on your stationary bike for an hour, then journal for about 15 minutes while you sip your coffee (or green tea), and then meditate for about 10 minutes, to get you centered–all before you jump in the shower and get your day started. For you folks with kids, it might be a bit tricky (your Girl knows all about it). So wake up at unspeakable hours and get to your ‘me-time’ before the babies wake up and it’s all about them (rightfully so:)).
  2. Remove toxic people from your life. If you can’t exactly get rid of them, then little by little, diminish contact. Here’s how: at first, just don’t call, let them call you. When they call, pick up at first, but over time, start to let calls go to voicemail. Eventually, pick up and let them know you’ve started a project that will take up much of your time (the project is your new life!) and don’t go into much detail. Toxic people don’t usually care so much about your life, but allow you to talk about what you’re up to because it gives them a turn to talk about themselves and the drama in their lives (that is why they are toxic!). So keep it general when you talk about you and let them do much of the talking until phone calls get boring to them. Don’t react to their efforts to get info out of you because that will undo the process you’ve started to taper off contact. They’ll seemingly have an opinion or advice on what you shared and then revert attention back to them, prolonging chances of their toxicity penetrating your new found sense of motivation.
  3. Forgive anyone who’s hurt you. Easier said than done. But it is highly necessary and very much impossible to live that life of brilliance if you have the weight and darkness of the past hurts casting shadows and weighing you down. You MUST let go of your past hurts to embrace new, loving experiences and people who are attracted to your light.
  4. Make new, high quality friends and take care of the current friendships that replenish you. Join a group of some sort where everyone is learning a new activity that requires partnership or dialogue. This creates the opportunity to talk to new people and automatically have something in common… your new interest in the activity that brought you together. It also allows you to add new, fun moments to your current friendship and deepen your bonds. Check out step 5 for more ideas.
  5. Make your life interesting. Learn a new skill. Take up swimming (that one’s for me). Take up martial arts (also for me). Take up cooking lessons. (Love a man who can throw-down…just saying). Take up a dance class that will allow you the chance to get into your body and out of your head. Learning salsa, for example, is a phenomenal way to become more sexy, skilled on the dance floor, learn a new culture (if salsa isn’t already part of your culture:)), be more confident, make new friends, and overall, become an interesting person. Love me a man who can move… just saying.
  6.  Dress to impress… yourself. Put on something that makes you feel sexy, desirable, strong, confident, competent, untouchable, but also… touchable;). And when you assemble that outfit, don’t forget to look in the mirror and tell yourself, “I am the shiznit!”
  7. Journal, my friends. Journaling allows you to hear, see, and process your thoughts and emotions. Here is where you can vent about an issue without anyone getting hurt or ever knowing you felt that way. Here is where you release negativity and then tell yourself what you want to see happen and what you’ve learned in the process. Here’s where you celebrate you! People often ask, “how can I love myself?” Well, this process allows you to get to know yourself on an intimate level. When you know you, you start to build compassion for yourself and you begin to love you more. So have a journal date with just you, the journal and a beautiful breakfast/dinner over a  beautiful view or in a cozy spot at home. Do this especially before you go into confronting anyone about an issue. It will help you generate a positive intention, formulate your logic and throw out any illogical thoughts you might possibly bring into your sit down. No therapist needed. Get your mind and your heart right without a bill, ya heard me?!
  8. Exercise and get your body right. Nothing tops this. When you’re body is right, so is your mind. Period. You feel good so you think good. Amazingly enough, the world responds with the same respect for the time and discipline you put into your body, mind, and soul. This goes back to creating a ritual in Step 1.
  9. Eat good and healthy. You really are what you eat. Every single cell in your body draws on your food sources to regenerate. So eating foods that replenish and hydrate you mean you are the shiznit on a cellular level! BTW, eating good can absolutely be healthy. So many recipes out there in the world. In fact, I’ll be posting some on DLB. So look out for them.
  10. Finally, if you have any thing you need to own up to in your life–anyone you know you’ve done wrong or let down–then, damn it, own your shit and make amends. Apologize and MEAN IT. There’s nothing that eats away at your sense of who you are and your wellbeing than knowing you have hurt someone who’s still walking this earth. For those who’ve passed on, you can still own up to whatever was unsaid. Apologizing to someone helps them heal, but it’s really about you letting go and giving yourself the chance to do better. People who’ve passed on aren’t worried about the life they’ve lived on Earth. That is why it does not matter whether you can call them up over the phone, or talk to them in spirit. So, even though this is at the bottom of the list on how to Do Life Brilliantly, this is where I would start.

Alright, my DLBers! It’s been real. Let me know your thoughts.

Leave a comment below.

Until the next post… Do life brilliantly!

Mical Asefaw–